A lot of people find things they don't understand are intimidating. It's a natural reaction. If you don't know what's in a box labeled "X," it could be anything. It could be a puppy, it could be a chocolate cake, but it could also be a tiger or a diamond-back rattlesnake. Until you open the box, you don't know. Some people find the chance that it might be a rattlesnake much more important than the chance that it might be a chocolate cake, so they presume this box labeled "X" is a threat and act like it.
I think that may be part of what's happening with some of the hate we're seeing lately with transgenderism. For most of us, me included, the experience of transgenderism is utterly alien and quite far from our daily experience. We make our physical gender part of our identity, and even people who understand that identity is a construct find it very difficult to see beyond it.
Over the last fifteen years, a lot of LGBTQ people and their allies have been operating under the presumption that if they raise the awareness of gay and trans people, it will make the larger public more accepting of them. The idea being that if we open the box and show the contents, people will see it's not a threat. In many cases, that's worked. It worked on me.
Some people are so concerned about the possible threat in the box that they don't want to look, even if it's open. Efforts to raise the awareness of LGBTQ people and normalize their presence make some people feel threatened, like this thing they're afraid of is growing and being "forced down their throat," which is exactly the opposite of the original intent to show that LGBTQ people aren't anything to be afraid of or concerned about.
It's really hard to cross the lines of culture, sexuality, and identity. These ideas become the core of how people define themselves, and far too many people don't feel confident enough of their own place in society to be accepting of people who are different. Anytime you see somebody with a chip on their shoulder, jealously guarding their spot in the world, it's a pretty good bet they're going to have trouble with bigotry.
It's particularly painful to see people who themselves were once marginalized because of their culture or race, or religion participate in the hate and rejection of LGBTQ people. You'd think they would be the first to recognize this syndrome in other people, and most are, but some become even more reactionary, almost as if their seat at the table will be taken away if they allow someone different to sit next to them.
This is one of those situations where I don't really know the solution. I think there's some merit to staying the course and continuing to raise the profile of differently-sexualized people and continue to try and educate people that they are not a threat in any way. There's going to be pushback. The slate at the last session of the Mississippi Legislature is a pretty good example of push-back. Recent political pressure to shut down the LGBTQ clinic at the University of Mississippi Medical Center is another example.
All I can suggest is, don't respond to hate with hate. Be firm but understanding. Fear of the unknown is legitimate; continuing to try and make known the unknown is still the best course. Maybe cut back on some of these basic cable shows exploiting the lives of teenage transgender people and focus more on the experience of adults. A lot of people are responding with near violence to the idea of trans people participating in sexed sports. It's actually a pretty rare event, but concern over it has exploded. Maybe there's some merit to trying to understand and cooperate with these fears, even though it's really very rare.
Reaching out to people who don't fit the larger cultural patterns isn't a hill most people want to fight on. It makes people wonder why you can't just go along to get along. This is something Jesus specifically shows us to do, though. There's a reason why he made a tax collector his disciple. There's a reason why he told the parable of the Samaritan. It's incredibly liberating for your own mind to take these lessons to heart and make them part of your life. Living without fear of other people is one of the greatest gifts you can I've yourself.